The Empowered Parent (Volume 4)

Personal: Becoming a mother changed me in so many ways. This NYT article The Birth of A Mother, discusses the importance of recognizing motherhood as an identity shift-- one of the most significant physical and psychological changes a woman will ever experience. Anthropologists call it "Matrescence" a developmental stage reflecting four major challenges: changing family dynamics, ambivalence, and the "good enough mother." We tend to downplay this unique and dynamic identity shift when we talk about working motherhood. Anyway, if you haven't read this piece yet, do.

Professional: Motherhood with all its joys and revelations, comes with at a cost in the workplace. Mothers are not compensated for all the work we do at home and are heavily penalized at work. We need to work for policy and culture change in the workplace and speak up for what we personally deserve. Benish Shah and the team at Refinery 29 made this outstanding salary negotiation guide to help you get yours. This article will help you make your case. It focuses on something I've long believed-- motherhood helps us develop as leaders and as women. 

Practical: I read a mothers day ad from a tech company that called attention to all the apps that can outsource everything we do. This may seem odd to point out as someone who put two years of her life into one of those apps, but the list was exhausting to read. It reminded me of this. What moms need is to do so much less. Here's a great set of tips to prevent technology from taking over our lives. My favorite tip is #3. "Remember: the most precious thing you can give someone is your presence." TRUTH. 

Partnership:  Josh and I are working on a big family project. It was clear that our default "put it on the (google) calendar" system wasn't quite going to cut it.  We've stepped it up and are now using Trello to track every checklist and shared deadline. Sharing responsibilities in a dual career family is a challenge both practically and emotionally.  In this segment on the Note to Self Podcast, Manoush Zomorodi interviews Andrew Moravcsik (husband to Anne-Marie Slaughter) about how they have and haven't managed work and life together. 

Parenting:  Read Minimalist Parenting by Christine Koh and Asha Dornfest. This book is parenting gold. They show how to tune into your family’s unique values and priorities and confidently identify the activities, stuff, information, and people that truly merit space in your life. The book offers practical strategies for managing time, decluttering the home space, simplifying mealtimes, streamlining recreation, and prioritizing self-care. 

Political: I believe real change will come when we can elect a representative government. Women and people of color are underrepresented at all levels in the 500,000+ elected offices across the U.S. I know so many women who are brilliant, resourceful, agents of change, born leaders who are looking for support to run for office. Organizations like She Should Run offer training help women envision themselves in public leadership roles, as well as platforms to nominate and support other women leaders.